lovenotereminders:

Reminder to people who were told by their abuser that nobody else would ever love them:

• Your abuser was lying to you.
• You are lovable.
• You are not damaged goods.
• You will find people who you love and who will love you in all kinds of unique and beautiful ways
• You will find people whose love for you is gentle and caring and selfless and reciprocal
• The selfish, controlling, manipulative way you’ve been treated wasn’t love.

hxxligan:

Relationships don’t take your anxiety away
Relationships don’t take your depression away
Relationships don’t stop the bad thoughts
Relationships don’t stop your mental illnesses

womanfourwoman:

if suddenly you feel the urge to cry come upon you seemingly from nowhere, please, recognize that it is not from nowhere. it is from a somewhere where you forgot to mourn properly. a place only your body can remember. let these tears come. let your body mourn. let your body feel her loss. even if you cannot understand her (who can?) it is important to let your body have this. when the crying is over feed your body something special and be gentle with her. bless

moverawayer:

cgcpoems:

“i’m trying not to stand vigil for you anymore / i’m trying
to survive without the soft astonishments of loving / i’m trying
to make myself into a good thing / even if you’re not around to
be proud of me for it”

- from “Anagapesis” in “Poems for The Sound of The Sky Before Thunder” by Topaz Winters

depression-healthy-carrier:

do you ever just sit there and realize that you mean nothing to anyone and you start feeling lost, alone, unloved, and truly unwanted.

psych-book-quotes-blog:

Here’s a good, but not exhaustive, sampling:

1. Sharing your feelings or troubles with others will make them feel burdened.

2. Sharing your feelings or troubles with others will chase them away.

3. If you let other people see how you feel, they will use it against you.

4. Sharing your feelings with others will make you look weak.

5. Letting others see your weaknesses puts you at a disadvantage.

6. It’s best not to fight if you want to have a good relationship.

7. Talking about a problem isn’t helpful. Only action solves a problem.

Fortunately, not one of these beliefs is true. In fact, they are each and every one dead wrong. (The only exception is if you share your feelings with another emotionally neglected person, who may not have any idea how to respond). When you grow up receiving consistent direct or indirect messages that you should keep your feelings to yourself, it is natural to assume that those feelings are burdensome and undesirable to others.

alifechasingchaos:

Safety in Isolation.

When I was a kid, being alone meant I was safe.

There was no one there to be enraged or erratic; no one around who could elicit my fear. I became accustomed to seeking refuge in a quiet space.

Unfortunately, this habit seems to have followed me into adulthood.

I had learned that a safe life is a solitary one, but this sentiment became a catalyst for my lifelong tendency to isolate.

The pangs of loneliness aren’t even enough to draw me out.

I crave to be known while never wanting to be seen.

parentless-suggestions:

i know i was treated wrongly. hell, every trait about me is a product of abuse. the way i cry when i get yelled at, no matter who it is or the situation. how i see myself as worthless, despite my achievements and talents. how i tear up and hyperventilate when im frustrated and how my anger is becoming uncontrollable, and im scared to have kids because what if i become just like my parents? and despite all that i always think. it could be worse. this is not abuse. im just dramatic. nothings wrong